by Adam McPike
If you are like me, you love to make deposits into your bank account, withdrawals not as much. In business and relationships, these transactions take place daily.
Relationships are like this, but we need to consider both transactions carefully. We all have those friends that help us in our time of need weather it is a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, to hold us accountable or to help us level up in life. They are making a deposit in our life and we are making a withdrawal during these times. The problem with some relationships is there are withdrawals but no deposits. I am sure you understand this will leave your bank account and your relationship in the negative.
Why do we allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits? Do we think we are helping them? Do we seek their approval? Do we fear losing them? The list can go on and on. Allowing people to make withdrawals is why we are here. I do not know about you but I love to help people any way I can almost to a fault. I can find myself giving and giving and giving to the extent, I am exhausted and even sometimes frustrated. I have also been guilty of being the person making too many withdrawals.
Once I started thinking of relationships like my bank account I started making better choices about whom I hung around. Do not get me wrong, I am no better than anyone, but as life has taught me to put good people around you daily and good things will consistently happen. Will it all be easy and happy all the time? No, but with the right people making deposits in your life you have a few friends you can turn to and make a withdrawal when you need to and vice versa for these select few.
The School of man is like this. Men from all walks of life come together and make deposits in each other’s lives daily. All of our backgrounds, beliefs and stories are different and unique. We set all of this aside and understand we all have the same goal to get better mentally, physically and emotionally. We make withdrawals from each other when needed too with no judgement or expectations because we have all made deposits in each other’s life every day.
So today, are you up to the challenge? Go make more deposits in your wife’s account, your kids account, your friends account, your neighbors account your companies account. I promise you the deposits will yield a better long-term investment down the road.